Yuav ua li cas yog tias tus dev muab tag nrho cov arsenal ntawm kev txawj ntse rau ib qho lus txib?

Qee lub sij hawm cov tswv tsis txaus siab tias tsis yog ua raws li cov lus txib, tus dev muab tag nrho cov arsenal ntawm kev kawm txuj ci. Thiab nws tsis mloog txhua yam thiab tsis hnov ​​​​qhov lawv xav tau los ntawm nws. Vim li cas qhov no tshwm sim thiab yuav ua li cas rau qhov no?

Raws li txoj cai, qhov xwm txheej no muaj ob qho laj thawj.

Thawj yog yog tias koj thov ib yam dab tsi zoo li yuav piav qhia, tab sis tus dev tsis ua raws. Tab sis nws qhia lwm yam kev ua. Hauv qhov no, tus tsiaj feem ntau yuav tsis nkag siab txog qhov koj xav tau. Nws txhais tau tias koj tsis tau piav qhia meej txaus lossis koj cov cim tsis meej txaus.

Txoj hauv kev tawm hauv qhov no yog tua koj tus kheej ntawm lub koob yees duab thiab tom qab ntawd txheeb xyuas qhov teeb meem yog dab tsi. Lossis siv cov kev pabcuam ntawm tus kws tshaj lij uas yuav pom qhov xwm txheej ntawm sab nraud thiab qhia koj tias yuav tsum tau hloov pauv hauv koj qhov kev cob qhia.

Qhov kev xaiv thib ob yog kev zoo siab heev thaum koj tab tom sim qhia koj tus dev ib yam tshiab. Qhov no tshwm sim nrog cov dev mob siab heev uas mob siab rau kom tau "zoo heev" uas lawv tsis tuaj yeem mloog cov lus qhia ua haujlwm.

Qhov no tau tshwm sim ntau xyoo dhau los nrog ib tus ntawm kuv tus dev thaum peb pib kawm thawj zaug.

Thaum kuv sim piav qhia qhov kuv xav tau, Ellie, zoo li tus noog uas Karen Pryor tau piav qhia hauv nws phau ntawv, muab tag nrho cov ntaub ntawv uas twb tau kawm lawm:

- Auj, kuv nkag siab, koj xav tau kev sib tw!

- Tsis yog, Ellie, tsis txhob ua yuam kev, mloog kuv.

– Okay, ok, kuv twb to taub lawm, tsis yog somersault txhais tau tias nkag, txoj cai?

– Tsis yog! Koj puas tuaj yeem mloog kuv txhua?

– Dhia! Kuv paub dhia! Saum toj no? Tshaj dua? Tsis yog nws thiab?

Qhov no tuaj yeem mus rau qee lub sijhawm. Thiab tsuas yog tom qab siv tag nrho cov khoom siv dag zog, nws thaum kawg tau ua tib zoo mloog rau qhov xav tau ntawm nws, thiab qhia tam sim ntawd:

“Yog, tau lawm! Vim li cas koj tsis hais tam sim ntawd?

Hauv qhov no, ua haujlwm nrog tus mob ntawm tus dev pab. Nrog rau kev qhia ib tug phooj ywg plaub-legged hloov los ntawm excitation mus inhibition, kev tswj tus kheej thiab muaj peev xwm los so.